Hopefully third time is a charm. I just checked in for my flight to New York which is the first leg of my trip to Portugal. I am ‘wheels up’ from Bozeman tomorrow on my third try to go explore Portugal as a potential place to live for a while. I will be stopping in New York overnight and then heading for Lisbon the next night where, if all goes well, I will meet up with my girlfriend, Barb, Thursday evening. She is flying from Phoenix and, although we are both connecting through Heathrow, we arrive and depart at different times on different airlines and will hopefully land within about 1 1/2 hours of each other in Lisbon to start this adventure. “How did that happen?”, you ask.
Since I hope to be posting things to this blog about our adventure, I thought it might be a good idea to start at the beginning. I believe in previous postings on this blog I have mentioned my desire to go explore places outside the United States as possible places to move. I have looked at a number of places but finally made plans to go to Portugal back in 2020. And then COVID hit and we all know how international travel came to a screeching halt!!
During the pandemic, I had joined an organization, International Living, that publishes a magazine and is a resource for those who are currently expats or are contemplating moving overseas. They advertised they were hosting a three-day conference in Las Vegas in February of this year and there would be representatives from many different countries making presentations and available to talk to. In addition, there were representatives from insurance companies, banks, realtors, etc all whose focus was supporting expats.
Even though I had already made plans to go to Portugal for an exploratory trip in April, I decided to attend because I was still thinking about other places like Costa Rica, Panama and France. I thought it would be a good opportunity to get some information in a short amount of time and for minimal cost. It is pretty easy to get to Las Vegas from Bozeman so off I went.
After the session on Saturday, there was a cocktail reception which I decided to attend. I had spoken with a few people at the conference at told them about my upcoming trip to Portugal. When I arrived at the reception, I ran into someone I had been talking to and they introduced me to Barb who was thinking about moving to Portugal when she retired.
Barb and I chatted a bit and since I was leaving for Portugal fairly soon and she hadn’t yet finalized her plans, she asked if I’d pass along any information I gleaned from my trip. I said that I would be happy to do that. The next day, I saw her in the conference room and went to give her my email and blog per our conversation the evening before. I asked her if she’s like to grab some lunch and we went to a nearby restaurant in the hotel where the conference was being held and had a nice chat.
After the conference ended, we emailed back and forth a few times as I was getting ready for my trip. And then – I had a major knee injury and had to have expedited surgery at the beginning of April to fix my knee. (I’m one of the few people on the planet who can break an artificial knee!!) When I first saw the orthopedist, I told him that I was due to leave for Portugal in 10 days and he just looked at me and said, “You’re not going anywhere,” and proceeded to tell me how badly I had screwed up my knee and what they were going to have to do to fix it! Strike two!
I told Barb that her ‘scout’ was going to have to postpone the trip. By that time, she was planning her own trip with a friend. During my recovery, we kept in touch via email and the occasional phone call. We seemed to have a lot in common and, at some point, we decided to try Zoom and began having our weekly ‘Zoom dates.’ It was a pretty radical move for a couple of senior citizens (she’s actually 8 years less senior than I am!) As Barb and I continued to have our weekly Zoom date, I was planning a trip to Southern California and suggested I take a detour through Arizona so we could see each other in person.
We had a great time in Phoenix, and I invited her up to Montana around Labor Day. She had never been to Montana and flew up for a 6 day stay. Once again, we had a great time and realized that we had a lot in common. I had already replanned my trip to Portugal to coincide with my visit to New York at Thanksgiving and she had scheduled her trip at a slightly different time, but we initially decided to meet up in Portugal when it turned out we were going to be in the same city at the same time.
As we continued to get to know each other through our Zoom dates, daily texting and phone calls, she decided to change her plans to sync up with my trip so we could go to Portugal together. So, as crazy as it sounds, spending 18 days together in Portugal will be our third ‘date’ of being physically in the same place. We both laugh about it and understand that travelling internationally can be stressful on any relationship, so we know this will be a good ‘stress test.’ That said, we are confident that we will have a great time, particularly since we have a common objective – narrow down which part of the country we’d like to move to.
Assuming we are still speaking at the end of our 18 day ‘date’ (I’m sure we will be!) and we really like Portugal, we will begin the somewhat daunting process of relocating. There are a lot of moving parts given that we live 1,000 miles apart and each have a house to sell. In addition, Barb has constraints due to work commitments and her two dogs. I have a different set of constraints such as when I want to put my house on the market. Also, the process of getting an extended stay visa in Portugal is a lengthy ‘adventure,’ and means giving up your passport for 3 to 4 months while that process is being worked. That said, many people have successfully navigated this maze and there are very robust expat communities in Portugal with many resources to help with the process. We’ll see!!
A year ago, neither Barb nor I were looking for a relationship and yet, here we are, heading off to explore Portugal together. It just goes to show, it’s never too late and sometimes you just need to take some action, e.g. go to a conference; ask a stranger to lunch – and be open to whatever happens! Let the adventure begin. Stay tuned.