I thought it might be interesting to let everyone know how Barb and I met and how we ended up on this journey together. And, perhaps more importantly, how we have managed to keep this relationship going for the last 15 months when Barb lives in the Phoenix area and I live here in Bozeman.
I had been contemplating leaving Montana for some time prior to 2022 and moving overseas. I had several reasons why I was contemplating such a move but suffice it to say, I was researching various options. Independently, Barb was thinking about her retirement and also perhaps moving overseas. She had built up a CPA practice in Phoenix over the last 25 years and was tiring of the grind of running a business – particularly during tax season! Each of us had kind of honed in on Portugal as a possible place to go.
Prior to 2022, I had joined an organization called International Living which targets people who live overseas or are contemplating living overseas. They have conferences and various resources to help people research the pros and cons of various places around the world. Barb had also joined International Living in her search for a place to retire.
International Living had to stop their conferences during COVID but was able to host a conference in Las Vegas in February 2022. They had very strict COVID protocols in place – mandatory vaccinations, mandatory masking, etc. On a lark, I decided to attend as did Barb. Neither of us were in a relationship nor were we looking for a relationship. We were expecting to embark on any future overseas adventures as singles.
After the first full day of the conference (Saturday), there was a welcome cocktail hour hosted by International Living in the hotel where we were staying. I was there talking to some people about Portugal and relating how I was actually planning a trip there in April when Barb walked in. She joined the small group and one of the people mentioned that I was planning a trip to Portugal. Barb said that she was also planning a trip to Portugal but later in the year. I told her that I would be happy to pass along any information I gleamed from my trip. We chatted a bit longer and then went our separate ways.
The next day, I saw Barb in the conference and during the lunch break I approached her and gave her the name of my blog that I would be using to detail my trip to Portugal. I think we also exchanged email addresses. Since it was lunch time, I asked her if she’d like to have lunch. We adjourned to a restaurant in the hotel and had a nice lunch. We were due to attend different sessions in the early afternoon but agreed to meet at a session later that we were both interested in. Later, I was seated in the session we agreed to meet in, when Barb came dashing in, told me she had forgotten when her flight was, apologized, gave me a quick hug and dashed away. I figured that was that!
After I returned to Montana to get ready for my trip to Portugal, I seriously injured my knee which was going to require major surgery to repair, and all of my travel plans came crashing down. At some point, I emailed Barb and told her that my scouting report would not be happening and in all likelihood she would make it to Portugal before me. At that point we started corresponding regularly, exchanged phone numbers and then finally moved on to Zoom meetings.
I was already planning a trip to Southern California in July so I threw out the idea of making a detour through Phoenix so we could meet face to face and just get to know each other a little better. She agreed and in July I drove down to Phoenix on my way to SoCal and spent a long weekend. We talked a lot and found we had a lot in common and enjoyed being with each other. Of course, there was still the issue of the 1,100 miles between Bozeman and Phoenix.
I invited Barb to come up to Bozeman over the Labor Day holiday and she accepted – our second ‘date’. We had a great time when she came up to Bozeman. By that time, we had each independently made our travel plans to Portugal. She was going with a friend of hers and I timed my trip so I could spend Thanksgiving with my daughter and her mom in New York City. However, there was a couple of days of overlap where we would be in the same city in Portugal and we agreed to meet up.
The more we talked about it, the more it seemed like a good idea to try to sync up our trips and just go together. She talked to her friend and subsequently, rearranged her travel plans to sync up with mine. We were going to take this trip together. We figured that traveling overseas together for 18 days would either make or break this relationship! As those of you who have read my blog posts from our trip could see, we had a great time. It was our third ‘date’!
Since then, we got together for New Years in Seattle (one of the few places with direct flights from Bozeman) and met in Las Vegas in February for the one year anniversary of our first fateful lunch. I just got back from 10 days down in Phoenix after tax season and Barb will be moving up to Bozeman for the summer. After that, I will be selling my house and moving down to Phoenix before we get our long term visas to go to Portugal. When we are apart, we text everyday and have our weekly Zoom ‘date’ usually on Sundays.
I’m going to be 72 this year and Barb will be 65. It just goes to show, you just never know when you might stumble into a relationship and embark on an adventure that you never really imagined. But here we are!